How do people just simply move on?
Do you know how much stimulation humans need? We are insanely complex animals. Making one other human the sole focus of my attention and sole fulfillment of my needs is way too much to ask, and way to little to experience.
You move on because you are not their discarded appendage. You move on because you are a whole and complete human and you have shit to do.
How could you.. allow yourself to move on.
I do understand that.. moving on is just a part of life. And it's something that will happened inevitably sooner or later... But I do think the real definition of moving on is that... the damage doesn't really control you anymore.
Yes you are hurt but... you just carry on with you day...
Doesn't control you as it used to be.
If you find it hard to move on. Express those feelings through an outlet of your choosing. Talk to God, paint,
draw, build a boat.. Anything that helps you let go.
Letting go isn't easy, and moving on is even harder as you watch that other person shove it in your face.. But I'll tell you that it's their loss in the end. You just have to see it to completely fight this horror.
You don't just 'move on." You grieve. It's a natural process everyone has to go through, and you have to make it through all of the steps. The light at the end of the tunnel is acceptance, and although the tunnel seems immensely dark and long, the light is at the end, even if it's just a tiny pinprick.
Time will never heal your wounds, but it will teach you how to cope with them. It will desensitize you to the pain. Grief comes in waves and no one has to be dead in order for you to grieve.
It will get better. Slowly, but it will get better.
how does someone completely move on? And do people do it?
Acceptance. When people hurt you or they move on, that just mean they are not to be worth in your life. Not because something wrong with you. When someone really cares about you, they stay and they will do anything to make sure you know that they really care and love you. When they leave and refuse to work the things you have together, they just not worth enough of your time.
Don't give so much power to one person. Your partner is only a part of your life. Attachment only leads to suffering and bondage. True love leads to happiness and freedom.
attachment gives rise to insecurity and emptiness.
Even if you get separated, if your love was true, you will still wish happiness for that person.Intial days after breakup may be tough,but still you won't belittle the other person.
the harsh fact is, society doesn't really allow you the time to move on. Dependent on your age, there's bills to pay, things to study, and things we have to do just to survive.
It's honestly so hard, but soon, something in your body will make you get up and go. Even if it is just survival instincts, I think that's
Please don't be afraid to grieve, but do not beat yourself up or dwell on the pain for too long. Remind yourself that a) you found love once and you will find it again and b) you are capable of being loved. I love you, we love you, and there was love in your relationship. You'll find love again. But please process all your emotions, we can help support you if you need it.
Moving on doesn't mean you forget about them, it means you continue living you life and don't deny yourself new experiences and new relationships. It means you're not holding back.
Finally You move on because you are not their discarded appendage. You move on because you are a whole and complete human and you have shit to do.