lonely, no one reaches out to me
I fell extremely lonely
you just need to rant. you don't know exactly what's wrong with you , but you know you are not a very likable person. you are so alone it's crushing you. you have friends but they dont reach with you and the relationships feel so superficial that you can't express feelings to anyone. They make plans that and not invited , and you just feel like a burden around them. Even your family never checks in on you unless they want something from you. No texts, no calls, nothing. you try to be better, softer, kinder, more helpful. you always bake for everyone so they can maybe like you by proxy to the baked treats. you are afraid that you going to die alone.
This explains the feeling of loneliness, complete isolation, feeling that you are shunned by all people, people do not love you, do not depend on you, they do not want to accompany you. It's a whirl, my friend
Feeling of loneliness
Loneliness is generally caused by a lack of friendships, and relationships during childhood and adolescence, or a lack of physical presence of meaningful people. It can also be a symptom of certain problems such as chronic depression, or represent a dysfunction of communication with others. Loneliness is also studied as a social phenomenon that is capable of spreading like a disease throughout a population.
Tips to reduce loneliness
1) Prioritise intimacy - A sense of loneliness doesn't just come from not being around people physically, but from a lack of true connection and intimacy.
2) Embrace authenticity - Perhaps you feel lonely because you have become a stranger to yourself by denying your true authenticity. Risk being more real with yourself and to others.
3) Real conversations - Talk more about things that are real, important, and meaningful to you, rather than
4) Choose friends carefully - Minimise interactions with fake, shallow, or toxic people, and spend more time with supportive, loving, and real people.
5) Humbleness and modesty - Sometimes our ego is what prevents us from truly connecting with others, so by embracing humbleness and modesty we can improve our connections to others.
6) Spirituality - Pay attention to and grow your spiritual side, which can help to feel more connected to the world. around us.
7) Altruism/Volunteering - Contributing to the world through altruism or volunteering is a great way to meet others and feel like you are making a difference.
8) Embrace solitude - Use time alone to work on yourself, appreciate peace and quiet, and practice self-care if required.
9) Hobbies It is always good to have a hobby or two, which can bring enjoyment and allow you to make new friends and connections.
10) Evening classes - Considering taking up a course or evening class. You can meet like minded people whilst you expanding your repertoire of skills or knowledge.
11) Travelling - Perhaps a change of location is what is needed. So take a vacation someone new or consider going travelling.
12) Common compassion - Realise you are not alone in your loneliness, because it is currently an epidemic, and many other people are suffering too.
13) Optimism - Embracing a more optimistic mindset and trying to see the positives more will open up the world to you more, than if you expect failure and rejection.
14) Learn something new - Challenge yourself to learn something new, or study a different subject. Learning more about the world or history may help you to feel more connected to it.
15) Keep a journal - Try to establish patterns of when you feel the most and least lonely. Is it certain people? Certain places? When you behave a certain way? Then set some goals to try to solve this problem.
16) Talk to someone or a helpline - Try and find someone you can trust and talk to, if you don't feel you can trust anyone then give a helpline a call. By talking to someone you will be letting out how you feel which will make you feel a lot better.
17) Take it easy - Being lonely can feel bad, and coping. with it can be difficult. Don't expect to fully solve it straight away, rather, focus on coping with loneliness one step at a time.
Overcome loneliness and find friends by yourself
Part 1
When a tornado wrecks the town, people get by with emergency rations until they can have good dinners. There are things that can hold you over until you have good friendships.
The best old saying "If you need a friend, be a friend." The best book - How to Win Friends and Influence People.
A quote from that classic "It's much easier to make friends by becoming interested in other people than by trying to get other people interested in you." Good listeners are always welcome. Flattery will get you nowhere but a sincere compliment now and then can work wonders, especially when somebody is feeling down. It's all about sincerity. Be seriously interested in what the other guy says.
There are people all over the world who want to talk with you - students learning English who are eager to have conversations with English speakers. Look up "language partners".
A good way to meet people - be a joiner. For example, if you can find a volunteer job that suits you it can be a real win-win - a sense of achievement, contacts with people, a chance to make friends. Sources - craigslist, volunteer match, google, local papers, volunteer tips lists. Video - volunteer info -
Part 2
try to make friends with people at your work, school, family And depending on your interests attend local events. If you like movies and there's a film festival nearby, spend some time there, go to screenings and bars and mingle. If you like video games there's always conventions. People also tend to make friends on trains. But most cities seem to have regular events and usually news about it is on Facebook. It can be a cafe with art nights, museum mingle, concerts, festivals, markets and other city events. Or if you feel financially stable enough you could take some time off work to take some classes for a hobby, or even part time after work, and try to make friends that way. I hope that helps :) and that's not even mentioning online friends
Quotes
"Risk being seen in all your glory." ~ Jim Carrey "To find real peace you have to let the armor go. Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world." Jim Carrey "Loneliness expresses the pain of being alone and
solitude expresses the glory of being alone." ~ PaulTillich
"I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone." ~ Robin Williams "Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible." ~ Carl Gustav Jung